How to trust God in other people's lives? 

The curious case of wanting to intervene and control other people’s lives but have to trust God’s work in them instead 

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Do you ever wish you could just say something? That the words you speak could help someone—that you could share the way you see the world with another? Do you ever see blaring sirens—red light flashing through the night? Do you ever see red signs waving warning of incoming danger and disaster? 

Maybe it is only because I am a storyteller. I see stories everywhere. I can tend to see signs of warning and caution in others' lives as well as my own. It is easy for me to look at someone and see their blind spots, their rose colored eyes, the backstory directing their actions, the red flags they ignore. It is easy for me to see and maybe that is only because I see stories everywhere. 

Have you ever been gripped by panic over another? The claws of fear bury deep in your chest. The boa constrictor of anxiety squeezes the air out of your lungs. You see the blaring warning signs and the red flags shouting incoming danger they cannot see themselves. All you want to do is shout. You want to warn them yourself. To shout their name. To tell them the trap they are walking into. How desperately you would fight for your friend—or even sometimes a stranger—if it meant being able to help them. 

What if you tell them—in kind words because you fear harsh words (direct words) would turn them away from listening—and they don’t listen? What if they are running headfirst towards a cliff and you can’t do anything to save them? You’ve said all you can without hurting them with your words unasked for but it goes to nothing. There are two ways to respond. 

1. Be direct and tell them what you see even if they did not ask. 

2. You let it go and pray the Lord is working in their lives (because He is)

Option one is the one I want to do. I want to be direct and 100% honest and show them all the warning signs. Throw being nice to the wind and tell them how it is. The hard thing about being direct and honest with someone when they did not ask for your opinion is that you are running the risk that they will run even harder towards the cliff in spite of your words. 

Thus we come to what God has been teaching the past few months. 

How do I trust other people—their mistakes, how they choose their own things, run towards imaginary cliffs—to God? 

I trust God. I know He knows what is best. I know He has a plan. I know that nothing is out of His control. 

I don’t trust people. I don’t trust that people will always make the right choice. I don’t trust that people will always have the mind to wait on the Lord and wait on His timing. I people have free will and can choose to do things outside of God’s plans. It is not that God is not powerful in this area but that He lets us choose. He lets us choose Him or not Him. 

This has been a learning experience to learn to trust God with other people. Trust that God is working in other people’s lives the same way He is working in my life. Trust that God will use every situation. Trust that God knows what is going to happen and is not taken off guard—He is not taken by surprise. Trust that He is good and is good even in our mistakes. 

I want to control things. I want to call out what is “good” or “bad” and “right” or “wrong”. I want to help people the way I think they need help. 

I am not God that I should control things and know everything that is going to happen. I am only human. I am only a girl. I am only an observer. 

God is God. I need to trust in His power and His work in other people’s lives. 

Boy is this hard. Lately I have been plagued by “peaceful panic”. Peace knowing God is in control of this situation and will be with the people involved. Panic because I feel like we are running out of time and there won’t be a second chance to make things right. A war between the flesh and the spirit. A war between panic and peace in the Lord. It is something I have to continually rethink and give to the Lord. He is the one in control. I have to trust in Him and that He is working in people’s lives. It is easy for me to trust in the Lord. It is terribly hard for me to trust in other people (hello people trauma and trust issues). 

This is something God is really working on in me. It is hard but I think it is also a training ground. One day my dream and prayer is to get married, have children and adopt. I will not be able to “control” my family. I can help and influence but I can’t control what they do and what they believe. I can do my best to be a good example but ultimately I will have to trust God with the most important people in my life. That will be much harder than these little situations I find myself a part of now. But it is a training ground. Do I trust God enough to let things go into His loving hands? Do I trust Him when I have no control? Or do I take things into my own hands? 

This is a training ground. I pray that I am passing. 

This is a war I’ve been battling that I can’t actually share about. It is a private war. A silent war. A war from which I am an island out in the ocean looking in on the mainland. I suppose if I am to have an email I can’t send (the original title of this post) it is this:

To: a friend 

From: Moriyah 

Subject: is this God’s best? 

Is this God’s best? Are you following what God has for you? Have you prayed and been honest with the Lord? Did you wait on His timing and His PEACE? Are you putting God first? Is this what God has called you to do? 

Is this a fear based move? Are you afraid this is your only chance? Are you afraid to lose this? Are you scared your life will end if this does not work out? Are you only ever anxious and stressed? 

Is this God’s best?

your loving friend who is praying for you <3

Thank You For Reading   

Thank you for being here and for being a part of my life! I hope you are all having a wonderful rest of your day! I’ll see you in the next one!

Yours Truly, Moriyah